LINDA IKEJI... Are you married?

She had called and I told her when I would be available. Finally she came and began her 'woe tales'... she ended it up by saying she's seriously praying for her life partner.
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This really would have been nothing except for the fact that she's a few weeks old graduate, full of potentials but seeking for a man whose head is big and wide enough to carry her load... but as a brother, I decided to give her my candid advice.
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"My dear, there's so much you need to put in place as a single before thinking of getting married... look as Diezani Alison Madueke[DAM]... I guess you know her". Her reply was surprising... "NO".
"Okay..." I proceeded... "But you know Okonjo Iweala". "Who is she?" was her reply... at this moment, every intelligence cell in my grey matter had shut down. There was no need continuing. A prayer was just enough to discharge her.
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Whenever you see a successful man, rather than gaze on his success, ASK questions that enabled him get there... this is what I was taught. I was also made to understand that the questions a man asks reveal his WISDOM.
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But to my surprise the most intelligent of questions the average Nigerian could ask because a SINGLE lady bought a house is "...IS SHE MARRIED?".
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In one of the branches of the Church I worship, a SINGLE lady bought a car, and the brethren accused her that she wasn't WISE! Haaaa!
okay, the excuse here was that now she has gotten a car, Men will find it difficult to approach her... I wish I could correct that word from MEN to BOYS. Boys will find it difficult.
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Its quite unfortunate that most MEN find ambitious ladies INTIMIDATING... I guess they need someone they can control with their 'chinko' money. Most women aren't helping matters, they think MARRIAGE brings relevance to WOMANHOOD.
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Listen dear ladies, the MAN DOESN'T DEFINE THE WOMAN. Being MARRIED is not, and NEVER will be a symbol of honour to WOMANHOOD.
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Dear Men, if you are better than your wife in ALL aspects... financially, Spiritually, Intelligence Wise, Managerially, etc... sorry, you are single carrying a human cargo along with you in your journey of life.
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My wife should be able to 'intimidate' me in some areas... That's what we call a JEWEL. You know you paid a Bride PRICE, and didn't pick up a COMMODITY to be used.
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Ladies, if any man or boy as it were, accuses you of being TOO AMBITIOUS, you shouldn't answer a 'fool' in his own words says the bible... You've known the kind of husband he'll be. A HUNTER!
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A man who eventually becomes a Husband to Linda I. will NEVER be poor... Not because she is rich, but because she is WEALTHY in ideas, information etc... This is what the Bible calls 'a HELP suitable' for the man. and come the think of it, a HELP is 'greater' than the HELPED!
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Give meaning to your SINGLEHOOD.
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PA.